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Hi Everybody,

I am an Indian guy. First of all will say sorry to all of you. Then i want to start this topic for discussion because i know that i am wrong and i want forgiveness from Allah that if Allah will forgive me.
Please give me your suggestion that if i am doing right or wrong or what should i do in this problem what i have. Thanks for Reading and for your suggestions.


Hi i am an Indiann guy. I was hindu from birth. I came to usa for study and then i droped my study here and i started working. when i was working then i found a Muslim girl. I liked that girl so much. i wanted her to be my friend because i never had any good friend in usa i thought she will be a good friend in my life. I always try to look at her and she was realy nice to me. One day i asked her for her email id and then she became nice to me and gave her email address to me. After that we started talking to each other. we started talking about something about kiss etc because one day she asked me that did i kiss anybody in my life then i said no because i never kissed any girl in my life then i asked her that did she then she answered yes i did to my ex-boyfriend then i said how it felt she said it was good. one day i asked her number but she never gave me her number and i gave my number to her. on my birthday she send me msg to wish me happy birthday. i got her number from that msg. she always cared for me. she cared for me so much. she wanted me to eat properly and so many other things she thought about me. one day i realize that i like her so much and then i asked her she said ya she likes me.

I asked her that is is possible to meet her again. she said yes then i went to see her in her university. she was realy happy to see me and i was so happy to meet her. i tried to kiss her but she declined and then she was upset with me because i forced her and next day i asked her for sorry and she said ok and then she started talking to me again. i fall in love with her. we started talking on phone and one day i told her about my feelings that i love her. and i asked her would you like to be my girl friend then she said ok but i will not able to marry you because i am muslim and you are hindu. then i said no problem we will be good friends. she accepted my friendship.

when we started seeing each other then we started touching each other from second day we met. i know it was wrong but we both wanted it i dont know why. then whenever we met each other we did touching each other. then we slept two nights together and we never fucked but never did less then fucking. i am sorry to use these worlds in this but i have to because i am not able to get right decision in my life.

she always said she love me she love me and i realy loved her alot and i love her now too and will love her forever. she always asked me that if i will convert muslim but i declined. then one day i realized that i was doing wrong thing and i started studying about Islam. i was going to convert one day and she said she dont want to be with me. i never let her do that day to break up with me. then one day asked her to meet me some place and she said ok. when we met each other i was realy happy with her and i tried to make her happy because i was going to convert and was going to Accept Islam. but i never told her and that day she was already angry with me but i was happy. Then we did the same mistake again on that day we slept naked with each other.

Next day when i called her and i asked her that you were not happy before and after we did that stuff then she was happy.

In the mean time she was realy scared if she is pregnent or not. she was scared from three months that she is pregnent. One day she prayed and made a mannat that Allah if i am not pregnent then i will leave this guy.

Next day when she called me and i was talking to her and was going to tell her that i am a Muslim, but before she said she have to leave me because she made a mannat to Allah that she will leave me if she is not pregnent.

Now she left me. I am still trying to get her back.

Now guys i am asking you that

1. If i was going to convert without understanding Islam was that right ?

2. If i wanted to know about Islam and i took time is that wrong?

3. whatever we did was wrong i know but is that right if i will marry some other girl and she will marry some other guy ?

4. Is her mannat right and acceptable to god if she left me?

5. Now i am muslim and not for her but for GOD then if i want to marry her is that wrong?

6. If i am trying to get her back and i dont want to cheat any other girl and she will cheat any other guy will it be right.

7. Now she is saying that she dont love me and she dont want to marry me then is that right to make her fallin love with me again?

8. I am trying to get her back then am i doing wrong or right ?

Thank you very much.
1-converting without understanding is wrong,
2-taking time is ur choice,
3-its fine if you wed someone other than her in the future, and she weds someone other than you (but you have to sincerly ask for forgivness from Allah SWT for all you did)
4- ...
5-its ok
6-...
7-she never loved you, it was lust not love,
8-move on!!
How can you say that she never loved me and it was lust not love. if it was lust not love then how come she slept with me and how come she cared for me all the time. how come she said all the time that she want to merry me. whatever she did was realy carefull. she went to temple with me, she showed me herself which is only for husband after marriege. how come you are saying that its fine if i will go for anybody else and she will go for anybody else, is that not a cheating with other ppl. if she never loved me then why she always felt realy good with me and whatever we did was not a joke. she realy cared for me. she always wanted to talk to me and all that. she lied her parents for me so many times. whenever i was in any problem she was realy worried about that. then what was that?
if she loved you she wouldnt have been with you in the 1st place, coz as a muslim fornication is haram (forbidden), you yourself are very lost, i suggest you learn Islam, learn what it teaches regarding women, modesty, marriage and sex before marriage, and the punishment in hell for commiting fornication.

Hope you reply after doing your research next time, jazzak-allah.
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